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Long time author Loveashli is a serial interviewee! :-)

She was actually interviewed twice before (see the interview in 2010 and the interview in 2007).

But quite some time has passed since then. I was interested to learn more about her life as a sexy hotwife and thought the users of ES would be too! So here's some questions and answers about that!

Q. What does being a hotwife actually mean?

A: It means I sleep with other men with my husband's approval.

Q. Does hubby condone it, or does he actually like it? And does he want to hear about it, or even get details?

A: He loves it. He wants details and especially loves to watch. And participate. He says I'm his favorite porn star. I'll dress up in sexy outfits he likes to see me play in. Even when we go out to dinner, he loves seeing other men checking me out or trying to hit on me. So I'll wear garters just to give men a glimpse and a clue that I want to be desired.

Q. Tell me about the first time your husband saw you having sex with another guy. How did that go and did you plan it in advance?

A: It was about 15 years ago. I was in my late 30s... he was in his mid 20s. We met him at a lifestyle club and surprisingly we hit it off pretty well. He was a good dancer and an amazing kisser. After about 2 hours at the club, dancing, kissing and drinking, he mentioned he was staying at a hotel nearby. I suggested we go there to continue making out. But once the three of us were in the bed, it wasn't long before my skirt was wrapped around my waist and I was sandwiched between the two men. Hubby said his heart was pounding from the intensity of watching me guide another man's cock into my pussy. It was a very hot experience.

Q. Is it something you do on a (very) regular basis, or is it a rarer occasion?

A: It depends. Over the years, I've dated a few dozen guys but most fizzle out right away. Others may evolve into something regular. It's not my life, but I probably am with another man at least once a month now.

Q. How do you select the guys, do you just go out somewhere and see who's there? Does your husband play a role in selecting the guys?

A: He's helped me look. Typically, I'm looking for a guy that is worthy dating material. A man who thinks his cock is God's gift to women or someone pompous is likely to see the night end very quickly. Selfish lovers are also ab absolute no-no.

Q. Is there a certain type of guys you go for?

A: I have dated all kinds in terms of age, height, etc. Even well into my 40s, dated a guy 20+ years younger and a few 10+ years older. I tend to like people around my age, as long as they take good care of themselves.

Q. Are there certain sexual acts that you keep for just your husband, and will not do with the other guys?

A: Initially, I did think about keeping anal exclusive to hubby and for most guys that remains intact. But I have had a steady boyfriend who has been given that privilege. Condoms are also a must, but again I have gone bareback with a select few.

Q. Would you like to see your husband have sex with another woman as well?

A: Nope. I own him... I'm sure other women would want him, and he has gotten to enjoy me with another woman. But he's got the hots only for me.

Q. Did you ever run into a guy you already knew, but didn't know you were into this?

A: We did get approach by a couple that knew my husband. That was a shock. I have also bumped into an ex-boyfriend and did date him again for a while.

Q. Do you tell your GFs you do this, and if you do, how do they react?

A: For some reason, I don't. For the most part, this is my little secret. I like having this special side of me that nobody knows about.

Q. Did you ever have a negative experience with this? It can't be all perfect, so I assume yes and what happened?

A: Some men are creeps. No matter how careful a woman is, you will accidentally pick a loser. I unfortunately did make an overnight date with one. It felt cheap and demeaning. He did apologize weeks later but the damage was done. I took a break before dating anyone else after that. In another instance, the man fell in love and wanted to run away with me. He was in for a sad awakening.

Q. Do you ever make pictures or video of it, so you can later relive the experience?

A: I have. Those are videos that hubby and I enjoy. I enjoy sending hubby a photo when I'm on a playdate so he knows he's always in my heart.

Q. Are there any rituals involved with preparing for a date with other men?

A: Yes. I usually enjoy an afternoon of pampering. I'll get my nails done, and my hair blown out. At home, I'll sit and put on my makeup while my husband selects my attire for the evening. On most nights when I know I will be heading to the hotel, hubby will have laid out stockings and a garter belt for me. When I emerge from the bathroom, makeup and hair done, he will sit before me and help me pull up my stockings and then he will clip them to my garter belt... all the while placing tiny kisses on my body. I'll then put on my bra, dress and slip-on heels. He knows not to ever take out a pair of panties when I am on a date. He knows I want to take my lovers hand from my knee to my inside thigh with the clear message of what I need to be satiated this evening.

Q. What about during the evening?

A: My attention is very focused on my lover for the evening, but I want hubby to know he is always first in my heart. I will excuse myself to go to the ladies' room. I'll send him a naughty text, or take an inappropriate selfie from under my skirt or dress. Occasionally I have dialed hubby and let him listen into my dates, which makes me even louder and more vocal when having sex... knowing he's listening to me.

Q. And when you get home?

A: Hubby knows to be waiting in bed for me when I get home late. Very little is spoken... he will be laying on his back, naked. I walk into our bedroom, kick off my heels and climb onto the bed, straddling my legs over him. I'm still fully dressed, the garters may or may not still be on. No kiss. I will hike up my dress and present my used body for him to admire and reclaim. I love feeling my pussy spread wide open in that position, especially after a night of sex, having hubby push his tongue deep inside me. I'll then shift down and ride him, draining ever drop of cum from his body into mine to complete the reclaiming process.

Q. Where can interested guys apply?

A: Don't call me... I'll call you. All kidding aside, I'm not looking for people to message me in the hopes to arrange a special play date. It's just not going to happen. I am very selective over who I let inside me.

Q. You mentioned in a past interview that you'd be interested to have sex with a woman. Did that ever happen?

A: It did. It was ok (sorry guys I know you want to hear how much I love lesbian experiences). I enjoy cock and that's what I crave.

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